Last week was "Gender Reconciliation" week here at Biola. It got me thinking about a number of things. Now I am reading the book "Ruby Slippers" by Jonalyn Fincher.

Anyway, one of my thoughts: why shouldn't a girl ask a guy out? Are men really meant to be leaders in relationships? Why? And what does it mean if a girl makes the first move?

First off, let it be said that I don't have a single love interest that I am hoping to pursue a serious relationship with at the moment. I certainly have a few guys that I find interesting and attractive, but for the most part I'm still rocking the being single thing. However, this has not kept me from going on dates, because dates can be casual and healthy.

Okay, now to my point: I am considering picking a guy and asking him on a date. I find it to be pretty easy to go on a date with someone who asks me. He chooses where we go, he drives, he pays, he clearly wants to be there with me because he asked, so I don't have to worry about making an impression on him so much...when I think about asking a guy on a date, all of that security goes away. It is up to me to come up with the place, the money, the conversation, and I do not have that automatic assurance that he is slightly interested in me. I want to ask a guy on a date because I want to feel what a guy feels when he asks a girl out.